The Tower tarot card is a major card and sits at number 16.
Throughout our lives we all strive to obtain and retain a sense of self and individual identity. This starts at The Emperor and our feeling of I Am. We draw people, places and things to us that help us to maintain what we believe to be our identity. Piece by piece, brick by brick, we build this ego personality, which here in the Tower is represented by the Tower itself.Then something happens that shatters our carefully created self-image and we discover that it was all an illusion. The Tower crumbles.
In The Tower card this sudden occurrence is symbolised by lightning striking, as if God himself has metered out some divine intervention. The two figures being ejected from the Tower are symbolic of our dual nature, our ability as human beings to know good from bad and right from wrong.
In life there are two distinct ways in which The Tower is experienced. One is when something unexpected happens to us, and the other is when someone else deliberately undermines our personality and therefore damages and destroys our self-confidence.
With the first example we directly experience this as a deep shock and trauma. One man had the Tower as the initial central pivot point of his reading. From the spread it was obvious that he had experienced such trauma that he now didn’t know who he was at all. Literally he had lost his identity. He explained to me that a few months ago his mother had died and that along with his three brothers, whom he was in business with, he had gone along to the reading of the will. In her will his mother had declared that he was not his father’s child but the son of a family friend.
This had instantly been a shock for the man, but when his three brothers turned and pointed at him saying, “You are not blood, we do not want you in the business”, his world had completely fallen apart. In a matter of seconds he had lost his identity, his family and his work.
The first thing that this client needed was treatment for shock, so I recommended the Bach Flower remedy Star of Bethlehem. The other thing that he required was time to assimilate the changes, lick his wounds and recreate his feeling of “I am.”
Here are a few examples of when I have seen the Tower depict shock:- Finding out
that one’s partner is having an affair. Sudden loss of a loved one. Accidents. Divorce.
For many people the break-up of a long term relationship results in The Tower. One’s identity has been built on being that person’s partner, on the shared friendships, the shared dreams and the shared income. With the loss of the relationship comes the loss of everything else.
Shock shuts down the heart chakra. This creates feelings of numbness and an inability to experience emotions. In tarot the heart chakra is symbolised by the Ace of Cups. Often you will find the Ace of Cups reversed close to The Tower card in a reading symbolising the broken heart. If the trauma is recent then this is a very natural reaction, but if the trauma is from years ago then it symbolises that the individual has not yet been through all of the stages of grief. Often crying is what is needed, and you will often find that a person stuck in shock has not yet cried, or cried enough, over their loss. The letting go is symbolised by the Star Card.
The other side of The Tower is when one person deliberately sets out to undermine another. The cause behind this is often jealousy, and if the two people are in a relationship it can arise from a fear of abandonment. This fear is rooted in the unconscious idea that if the partner achieves more then they will no longer want to be with someone who is not such a high achiever. In a reading see if this Nine of Coins reversed is close to any card symbolising the partner as this often refers to a person who fears being abandoned and is highly insecure.
During a reading I have seen The Tower depict a husband or wife who criticises or constantly puts down their partner. Instead of the Tower blasting the personality apart in one fell swoop it is someone slowly chipping it away, bit by bit, instead. The partner takes on the role of God and will often say things like, “if only you did this or that,” “I don’t think you’re capable”, “You’ll never achieve that,” “You’re so stupid.”
Many people live within these abusive relationships until they quite literally reach breaking point. Often people suffer an abusive relationship for many, many years, the ego identity too crushed to believe that they would be capable of making it on their own.
I have also seen this side of The Tower in both work situations and teaching situations. In both cases it often occurs due to inherent jealousy. In a reading the Three of Swords will depict the jealousy and bad feeling coming from the person who is undermining the individual.
Sad as it is I have often done readings for people who are studying on a spiritual path and it is their tutor, or master, who is undermining their abilities. These types of teacher fear that the student will surpass them and somehow steal their glory. When I see this in a reading I know that the spiritual student has great capability, otherwise the master would not fear them making progress. It also happens in educational establishments of all sorts, again where the teacher has to “know best”. In this kind of situation look out for the three of coins close by, as this symbolises teachers and teaching.
When the Tower is taken to symbolise the past and childhood it can depict either: a) childhood abuse, generally of a mental or “smacking” type, rather than sexual abuse, or b) birth trauma.
With childhood abuse the Tower depicts blows to the body or ego identity, and only alongside specific surrounding cards would it indicate that the abuse had a sexual nature. These shocks get stored in the body, create post-traumatic stress and also long term feelings of inferiority.
Shock from birth trauma can not only create feelings of inferiority but also contribute to a long term feeling of loss, grief and a sense of “not belonging”. Very often such people find it difficult to find a sense of fulfilment within their lives and underestimate their own achievements.
Interpretations for tarot cards adjust and metamorphose with the age in which we live, and in recent years the Tower has come to represent the dramatic destruction of the twin towers on September 11th. I most certainly did not foresee the tragic events, although for about two months leading up to Sept 11th I had a lot of clients laughing and saying ‘impossible!” when I looked into their futures and judged that they would not travel, not publically perform their music, that their company would not be worth half as much in a few months’ time, and so on. All of these predictions came to pass after September 11th.
After the events of September 11th I have seen the Tower in readings for people who have been influenced and affected by the terrible events. Even though I live in the UK some of my clients lost loved ones, while others have had their working lives changed due to the world events which followed.
When the Tower card is reversed in a reading it symbolises the questioner’s refusal to crack up under strain, pressure or shock.
Very often it depicts that someone has armour plated themselves in order to survive a situation. I saw this clearly for one woman who was nursing her sick mother. Due to her mother’s dreadful illness she had become “not herself at all,” as my client described it, which included swearing at her, yelling abuse and going into lengthy sulky silences. My client admitted “bricking herself in” against the onslaught, yet knew that mostly all she wanted to do was to burst into tears. She accepted that there would be a time, in the future, when her mother eventually passed away, that the constant shocks would have to be released.
If shock remains locked in it results in all kinds of physical ailments, especially stiffness within the body. Often when a client has a variety of ailments which doctors have diagnosed as “stress” and the Tower card is reversed then I will start to take cards for their past to work out where the shock originated from. It is quite amazing how the human psyche manages to cleverly cloak and shield us from shock so that we can continue to function.
For one young man we traced the blocked shock back to when his father left his mother. Never before had he taken the situation to be a shock, yet he clearly recalled how each day he was upset when his father didn’t come home after work. “I never cried,” he admitted. “My mum needed me and I had to be a man.”
For one woman the Tower card reversed appeared when we were looking at her romantic situation. She desperately wanted a fulfilling relationship yet found it impossible to trust and feel love back from any partner. The Tower reversed implied that her heart chakra was blocked which was the cause behind the lack of loving sensation she experienced. We took cards for her past and the Ace of Cups reversed (broken heart) next to the Ten of Coins (family) indicated that her family had been unable to exhibit positive affection due to their own problems.
On a very mundane level if the questioner is asking about buying property and the Tower card turns up representing the property they intend to buy then it literally indicates that the building is on shaky ground, that the foundations may be at fault or that it is in need of extreme renovation. I see a lot of people who are property developers and these folk generally just smile at me and say, “I know it needs a lot of work, my dear, that’s why it’s a good investment for refurbishment.” One man even roared with laughter. “That’s what I intend to do,” he said. ”Raise it to the ground and build something new.”
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hi there – tonight i picked the Tower followed by Ace of Cups then the Devil and the Moon – this was an online reading – i read that Tower followed by reverse ace of cups can mean a blow to the heart chakra but what if it isnt reversed? Very recently I had felt very let down by my daughter and her exx over the care of their child . Basically I was left with the little boys care whilst they partied (sepeerately) my mum is in hospital having almost died of heart failure last week and i was very upset at their apparent selfishness. However I am feeling guilty about what I said to them – that they were irresponsible and selfish – but I cant figure out what the cards mean in relation to this – thanks if you can help me xx
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Hi there,
Your story exactly describes the cards you chose. The Tower symbolises shock. This will be the shock of how your daughter has treated you, and the shock of your mother’s illness. You are absolutely correct that the Ace of Cups represents the heart chakra, and the card being upright shows that your heart chakra is strong and you are full of compassion. It is also love, showing how you keep on loving these people, even though they hurt you. The Devil represents guilt and the moon is fear. Here your fear will be anxiety over what you have said, but also what would happen if you stop loving these people.
It sounds like you are their rock. You are taking the upsets/shocks and trying not to let them go deep and break your heart. In all this you’re the one feeling like the ‘bad’ person (the Devil), purely because you’ve spoken out. I can tell that you’re sensitive and caring, because you fear that they might stop loving you if you speak your mind, and also fear what might happen if you stopped helping out.
You mention that this was an online reading, so you may not have a Tarot deck yourself. The next step is to do another reading, online if you don’t own cards, and ask the question, ‘How do I best deal with this situation?’ This spread has outlined what is happening, now you need to seek guidance as to the best way forwards.
I hope this helps,
Toni
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thankyou so much for taking the time to reply – wow – it is so intepretative of the situation isnt it! I am being drawn now to learn how to read the tarot more. Thanks again.I will ask the question and ddo another reading.
Best wishes Elaine
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how to deal with it i got emperor then knight of wands and two of swords. I can read up on meanings but what i struggle to do is intepretate it for my or any particular situation. I find that very difficult. Thanks again!
best wishes
Elaine
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Hi Elaine,
When asking a question about a specific subject you have to interpret the cards according to the question.
With your spread you have a male figure to start with, the Emperor. I feel that this is you. It says that you have to use your masculine side and be strong, in charge of your own domain. In this situation your home and your home life.
Then you have the Knight of wands. This card represents all messages which are not face to face. These days that’s mainly telephone calls and text messages, the telegramme and letter not being so immediate any more.
The final card, the two of swords, is all about ‘keeping the peace.’
Put together we have you needing to be strong when people in this situation contact yet. However, we still have you choosing the middle line by keeping the peace, even though their attitude makes you cross.
In connection with your family dynamic it implies that you’ll work hard on being strong and non-commital, but not yet feeling bold enough to say an outright no.
The two of swords shows that you don’t want to be the one who starts a fight and creates upset. There’s a sense of you biting your tongue and holding back on what you truly would like to say.
Hope that helps,
Toni
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